What Fenris said in the Permaculture Cities thread
about schools constantly forming classes then breaking them up again crashed the cymbals in my brain about this topic.
In our way of life, students leave for college and never come back, and military or corporate families constantly move for new jobs. Normal, regular stuff, no big deal, exciting, even, certainly not tragic! Our culture wires us
to give up on relationships easily and keep our links weak. Obviously, not everyone falls victim. I just mean to say, we have so many such mechanisms in place. I think just recognizing that, seeing the monster in its true form, helps rewild us.
Last summer, someone told me the story of The Giving Tree
(I'd never heard it before--a twisted, fucked up tale if you ask me) in the context of kids saying goodbye to their high school friends and teachers (and places/homes), relationships that nurtured and fed them for years, and "launching into life"--just chopping the whole tree right down. Soon afterwards, the tears started rolling. I couldn't stop them. Something had just cracked, deep in my armor of denial about the hurts civilization wreaks on our hearts and lives.
I don't know what it means to have a lifelong friend. I moved away after college and now have started a family of my own with no family (of origin) in town. Now even my new family lives in 2 separate houses. Hundreds of families live the same way, all around me.
For Pete's sake, let's figure out how to heal this sad, broken thing! Maybe it will take hunting down, naming, and chopping off the monster's many heads. . .